My Memoir: My Mama, Esther LeBaron McDonald de Spencer, Pt 2

LeBaron passport pic
1920 Passport Picture of Alma Dayer LeBaron & Maud Lucinda McDonald LeBaron & family: Children, from left to right: Ben, Alma, Wesley, Irene, Lucinda, Jenny

“My mother was the source from which I derived
the guiding principles of my life.”
John Wesley

I left off in Part One where Mama’s parents, Alma Dayer and Maud Lucinda McDonald LeBaron, didn’t agree with the mainline Mormon church’s new mandate regarding polygamy. Why?  Because the Prophet Joseph Smith had given a commandment from God (stated in the Doctrine and Covenants, Section 132) that the Saints must live Plural Marriage or be damned. In other words, Joseph Smith had set his followers up to suffer a life of hell — which, for most people, is all living polygamy is: A living hell.

Said Mama, in reference to my grandparents’ stance on the Mormon Manifestos of 1890 and 1904:

“Ma ‘n’ Pa didn’t believe it was right for the Mormon church to outlaw polygamy, given the Prophet Joseph Smith prophesied it must be lived to attain the highest degree of glory in the Hereafter!

 So they joined ranks with a fledgling Mormon fundamentalist movement that insisted on followin’ the Prophet Joseph Smith’s revelation commanding they live polygamy or be damned.

“They’d follow this commandment even if it meant they and the rest of their Mormon brethren would once more be driven from their homes and lands, tarred ‘n’ feathered, stripped of their financial assets, and thrown out of the country, jailed, or killed. You see, Ma ‘n’ Pa were stalwarts who’d lay down their lives for ‘the gospel’ … as would I,” proclaimed Mama.

As I said in last week’s blog, I only wish my self-righteous, stoic grandparents, parents, and the rest of the rebel Mormons who chose (and still choose) to continue living polygamy would’ve been/ would be half as strict about living Christian and other Scriptural doctrines taught by their self-proclaimed Prophet Joseph Smith as they were/are about living polygamy!

It makes me wonder what it was about the original many thousands of Mormon people who chose to follow such as Joseph Smith! In that same vein, I also wonder what it was/is about the zealot Mormon fundamentalists who believe they are “God’s chosen handful” and who were/are so determined, still, to continue to have more than one wife, come hell or high water!

Because most Mormons saw the wisdom and practicality of giving up plural marriage and abiding by US law. And they also saw the practicality of following their Prophet Wilford Woodruff’s new “revelation” that discontinued polygamy in the LDS church … for the time being, that is … unfortunately, however, not for the hereafter!!

Getting back to the main story, Mama told me: “My parents, left the US and moved to the Mormon colonies in Old Mexico before I was born ’cause they intended to live ‘the Holy and God-ordained law of Plural Marriage’.

“However, after I was born, in 1921, due to financial circumstances, they had to move back to ‘The States.’ There, Pa bought us a home in the small, southern, agrarian Mormon town of La Verkin, Utah, — one where we could plant our own orchard ‘n’ garden … and keep a goat too. I was still a baby then.

“While there, Pa found the plural wife he’d been lookin’ for — pretty eighteen-year-old Onie Jones. He married her soon after he convinced Ma of the righteousness of taking Onie as his plural wife. Though the three of them did their best to keep this plural marriage a secret, word soon got out in that small Utah town.

“Not long after that, a friend informed my father a Mormon mob was gatherin’ to lynch him! So he, Ma, ‘n’ Onie grabbed us kids in the dead of night ‘n’ fled back over the Mexican border to live in the Mormon colonies in Old Mexico again.

It was 1923 by then. If my parents hadn’t fled when they did, it’s said the mainline Mormons would’ve done them in … because they felt my parents had done THEM in by ignorin’ their church’s mandate against polygamy.

“You see, in 1904, to please the US government and its citizens, and to show they respected the laws of the land, the LDS church had finally instigated a second Manifesto outlawing polygamy in their church:  From ‘The Manifesto of 1890’ to ‘The Manifesto of 1904,’ there’d been a moratorium on polygamy in the LDS church, which allowed Mormons to get used to the new anti-polygamy regulations.

“But,” continued Mama, “by 1904, those still livin’ polygamy had to either get rid of their plural wives or get out of the country; i.e., move to Old Mexico. Anyone takin’ a plural wife after 1904 would not only be excommunicated from the LDS church ‘n’ considered an apostate, but they’d also be jailed.

” My father was one of the first men to disregard the Mormon church’s new Manifesto of 1904: He took a plural wife in 1923 (because he believed God’s laws came ahead of the laws of the land). So, Ma ‘n’ Pa were excommunicated and disfellowshipped from their beloved church.”

You see, by 1923, polygamy was more than ever frowned upon among the mainstream Mormons: It threatened the safety and solitude they had finally gained, among other things.

Therefore, they wanted Dayer LeBaron and his two wives OUT of their midst — if only to show other Mormons what would happen, should they choose to follow Dayer’s example of insurrection wherein he continued to take plural wives despite the Mormon church’s modern, updated doctrinal revelation and mandate regarding Joseph Smith’s “Holy Principle of Plural Marriage.”

2 thoughts on “~ Pt 2: My Mama Esther LeBaron Spencer, Me, and Polygamy

  1. “WE are a product of our upbring and environment” both being brain-washed of religious beliefs of well-intentioned and loving parent (s).

    It was careless & inappropriate to post about immediate family, on the Spencer group site and deleted my part this morning. Perhaps, you’d care to as well. I did not block you. I empathize with your torment and pain you endured (FLDS) and apologize for my ignorance of the family adverse effects. The unjust persecution of a couple of my mom’s sisters is unfathomable and negatively influenced me when young.

    Reading your memoirs and watching several of the video clips was a gravely disturbing enlightenment. The emotions that arose was frightening and humbling.

    I am not brave enough to openly share about my horrific experiences; raped, molested, deceptive thievery by sibling and bff, shot at, etc.

    Our deep seeded pain is real.

    With love, niece Janice

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    1. Hi Janice:
      I tried to message a nephew this a.m. and found that message would not go through either. So there is a problem with my “Messenger” on Facebook. So glad you did not block me!

      How precious of you to contact me. I’m so sad to hear about the terrible things you have endured. I could go on and on about all that our families have had to deal with and survive. But I have much writing and rewriting I need to do on my blogs and book, so if you ever want to call me, I would love to talk with you. On the phone I can say much more, much more clearly and much more quickly–and don’t have to edit things, etc., as I do if I put it in print.

      My phone number is 818-363-7664. Right now in Los Angeles it is 10:25 AM. The best times to call me are between 9 AM and 6 PM Pacific Standard Time.
      My email address is

      I wonder what you mean when you say “The unjust persecution of a couple of my mom’s sisters is unfathomable and negatively influenced me when young.” I did not know Eva’s children were persecuted, etc., if that’s what you meant by what you said. I only know Daddy’s second family certainly suffered persecution.

      Thank you for removing the conversation between us from Facebook. Probably nobody else needs to be in on it. I will certainly remove anything I have said that can be controversial or perhaps even cause you problems.

      Here on my website is a good place to converse–and to also correct me if you find I’m in error or have said things I shouldn’t say. The time you have taken to do this is invaluable when it comes to my memoir writing.

      I’m so glad you listened to some of the very informative video clips I’ve posted. I just finished listening to Rachel Jeff’s recently published memoir, “Breaking Free.” I got it in audiobook/CD form from the Los Angeles Public Library.

      Right now, I am listening again to my cousin Carolyn Jessop’s best-selling book, “Escape.” I own the book and have read it, but haven’t time to do nearly all the reading and re-reading I need to do, so I listen to e-Audiobooks whenever I can find them through the public library. Otherwise, I check out the CDs.

      The above two books and my Aunt Irene Kunz LeBaron Spencer’s “Shattered Dreams” and “Cult Insanity” are the main books I recommend you listen to or read–though there have been many good books written on the subject of life in Mormon fundamentalist cults.

      Looking forward to hearing from you again.
      Love, Aunt Stephany


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