By Stephany Spencer:
Review of my cousin Anna LeBaron’s Memoir:
The Polygamist’s Daughter
*Note:
This is a re-post Review I wrote three years ago when Anna Le Baron’s first Memoir came out. I’m happy to tell you she is now in the process of writing her second book.
Follow her on social media sites such as Twitter and Facebook. And on her website AnnaLeBaron.com, to be among the first to know when her second book is published.
Thanks to Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., I was honored with a complimentary ARC (Advance Reader Copy) of cousin Anna LeBaron’s bravely written book, The Polygamist’s Daughter, published March 21, 2017.
I was disappointed Anna didn’t tell more about her miscreant father, “Evil Ervil” — the murderous “Mormon Manson”. Also, wish she had gone more into the details of her “running away from home.” (Would not have cared if the book were longer!)
As it was, her book said little about her colorful father. And her “running away” was to call her married sister to take her in — a sister within walking distance. Still, I give her credit for having the sense and courage to leave her home at all, under the circumstances, and at the tender age of thirteen! She might have been killed by the cult she fled for having left it—though I doubt she knew that then!
Her book was milquetoast in comparison to what was really going on in her family and father’s violent cult. However, I believe she was between a rock and a hard spot when it came to relating this treacherous past family and cult history.
Furthermore, she was very young when much of the malevolence that transpired within her family’s cult. She apparently didn’t know about it — and maybe still doesn’t know that much — and doesn’t want to know. But there are a number of good books on the subject — books hard for my uncle Ervil’s children to read and accept. I understand that!
I’m a veteran of that history. I realize that were Anna totally upfront, it would possibly have compromised her present and future — her amazing success at having survived and triumphed over her dangerous past. Given this estimable accomplishment, Anna is an outstanding example of what the human spirit is able to overcome and rise above.
Her father is my mother’s brother. And was my husband’s buddy/ boyfriend for ten years. I knew Uncle Ervil well … as well as one could know a devious and manipulative man like my Uncle Ervil LeBaron. I had felt much love, respect, and reverence for him till he went off the deep end and into his murderous, power-pushing psychopathy.
Presently, I feel mostly pity, shame, and disgust for my dangerous but now-deceased, criminally insane uncle — who, though mentally ill, sociopathic, and revengeful, nonetheless, had a lot of people convinced he was a prophet.
To better understand what I’m talking about, read Cult Insanity by Irene Spencer; Prophet of Blood by Ben Bradlee Jr. and Dale Van Atta. And The 4 O’clock Murders by Scott Anderson — among other books and articles on this history. (See my Reviews of these books.)
There are also YouTube documentaries and interviews on Ervil, the LeBarons, and Mormon fundamentalist polygamists. They give background and insight into what Anna LeBaron was brought up in; and was up against. But you won’t find it in her book.
To further understand this bizarre LeBaron-crime-family mafia scene, also check Wikipedia and other online Info about Ervil LeBaron, including my Website Menu bar under “Media About my Family, Friends, and Mormon Fundamentalist Cults.” And “Famous ‘n’ Infamous Relatives of Mine.” You could, as well, watch the excellent film, “Prophet of Evil,“ starring Brian Dennehy.
Getting back to Anna LeBaron’s Memoir, The Polygamist’s Daughter, everyone in the LeBaron Colony in the 1960s saw how Uncle Ervil went about preaching and “doing missionary work,” totally indifferent to the needs of his nine neglected children by his first wife Delfina.
These indigent kids were left to roam the streets, starving, and unkempt — not to mention his fifty or more other deprived and abandoned children he eventually fathered by an additional thirteen wives he added to his harem.
(Sadly, on top of everything else, he and his wives taught all their kids to be murderers in the name of religion — Avenging Angels!)
It hurt me deeply to read, in Anna’s Memoir, her account of how she felt about being so badly neglected and used by her non-empathetic, sense-of-entitlement, mentally-off father.
But when I read how Ervil’s unloved, abused daughter Lillian died, I grieved for days. She was one of my Aunt Delfina’s darling children whom, when Aunt Delfina was depressed and mentally ill, I had helped look out for while I lived near them in the LeBaron Colony in Mexico — before escaping in 1967, at age twenty-one.
Sweet Lillian was only around five or so, then. And I don’t believe Anna had been born yet. But I had lived across the street from her jolly, red-haired mother with the beautiful singing voice, Aunt Anna Mae Marston/AKA LeBaron.
I had taught her older siblings (including gorgeous David Marston — see his life’s story I have posted on my Website) in my Colonia LeBaron Preschool I started and conducted in my home at age seventeen.
Though I wish Anna had gone more into depth about her past life, I’m proud of her efforts and the work she put into writing and publishing her Life Story. The world benefits by knowing “the unspeakable” and by hearing her speak of how she triumphed over it.
Her tragic memories were anything but easy to relive in order to put them in print. But I get a sense she’s protecting her 50+ siblings and other relatives by not revealing more of her early upbringing and beliefs.
However, there is much meat only she and her siblings could reveal to an amateur social-psychologist like me. But she kept it from us.
I felt her story picked up in the latter part wherein she finally shot from the hip a bit. I especially found it enlightening and helpful when she detailed how she overcame a bout of deep depression.
I benefited, also, when she told of her epiphany that gave her a new lease on life — a greater purpose for living. She’s presently a Life Coach. And works to help improve the world — just the opposite of what her pa did!
Though her papa preached that he was “Here to set the house of God in order, to prepare it for the second coming of Christ,” in reality, he did the opposite of everything he preached and claimed: He was really here “to set up the devil’s house” and prepare the world for a living Hell!
Like her dad Ervil, Anna LeBaron is bright, a writer, and a leader. Unlike him, she exhibits integrity, sanity, empathy, and a loving, giving spirit. So hats off to Anna LeBaron! She has come a long way, met redemption, made a lot of good choices, and overcome a LOT.
I look forward to her next book — if she shoots from the hip and “tells all.”
For me, a person that grew up in the LeBaron cult her father helped build, that would be much more helpful — a healing, insightful, sociological study and Memoir — not more mishmash; but worth my time and money to buy and read
An afterthought: Possibly, The Polygamist’s Daughter, given its book cover and all, was mostly meant for the “Children’s”/ “Young Adults” section of the library. In that case, it didn’t need more depth and information — the likes of which older, informed adults like me would likely be looking for.
The most heartbreaking part of Anna LeBaron’s story wasn’t even in her book.
It was her answer to an interviewer’s question: If you could magically meet your father today what questions would you like him to answer? What would you have to say to him?
Her answer was heartbreaking. “I would want his approval. I would want him to be proud of who I am and what I have made of my life.”
Anna was speaking not from her intellectual side, but from her heart. She wanted a little girl’s approval from her father.
Anna KNEW what kind of man her father was. She KNEW he had ordered the deaths of many people, including his own daughter, Rebecca. She had only met him on three occasions. On none of those occasions did he act anything like a father. He barely knew she existed.
Yet the little girl inside her, who had never know a father’s love (or a mother’s love for that matter) yearned for the approval of this horrible man.
Anna, if you are reading these words, forget about your father’s approval. ANYONE who has read your book thinks you are splendid and we are all totally amazed at what you have achieved and who you have become.
If ever there was a poster girl for a person who has overcome impossible odds, you are it!
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So beautifully said and well put! And there are a lot of “Poster Children” who are coming out of the rubble of the LeBaron-cult past … surmounting their setbacks like the beautiful Phoenix that arises out of the ashes and takes flight, then ascends high above the clouds into blue skies and sunshine.
For example, check out the Website of Uncle Ervil’s genius daughter at: GabriellaLeBaron.com. I’m pretty sure I have her URL correct. If not, she is listed in my “Media on My Family, Friends, and Mormon Fundamentalist Cults.” (She’s down towards the bottom of that Post. Look for the piece of artwork she painted, and you will know you have arrived at the right spot.)
She relates a bunch of her family history, is an amazing poet and writer — bilingual, got next to no education, was discovered and given a full Scholarship to the ivy league College, Cornell University — and just graduated last month with her BA!
What’s so amazing is that Spanish was her first language. She pretty much taught herself to read both English and Spanish by going through a box of books on the ranch where Ervil’s kids were hiding out from the law — shoot-outs and all — as you have read about in “The 4 O’clock Murders,” Scott Anderson’s excellently written and researched Book. (Don’t know how he kept all those facts straight.)
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