“The less people speak of their greatness,
the more we think of it.”
― Francis Bacon
Alma Dayer LeBaron
Lou Gehrig’s Disease
and “Who Got the Button?”
Maud Lucinda McDonald LeBaron, Joel Franklin LeBaron, and Alma Dayer LeBaron Sr
“A mother is she who can take the place of all others
but whose place no one else can take.”
Joel Franklin LeBaron — namesake of his Great-uncle Joel Johnson, Benjamin Franklin Johnson’s oldest brother — is only one of my seven paternal uncles/my Mother’s brothers who claimed, at one time or another, to have gotten “the keys to the kingdom” — the Johnson Mantle/Scepter of Power from his father Alma Dayer LeBaron Sr..
This Mantle/Scepter of Power was supposed to be passed down through “the laying of hands,” as were all Mormon priesthood blessings passed on from the previous holder to the next man in line.
However, here’s where the stories changed regularly to whatever fit the bill at the time — Whatever seemed most convincing and palatable. For example, in some of Grandmother Maud’s tellings of the story, she said:
“Just before my husband Dayer died, he laid his hands on his son Joel’s head and ordained him with the Scepter of Power and keys to the kingdom to set the house of God in order; and prepare a gathering place for the Saints — a place where Christ could return.”
Now, here’s the clincher:
From all I can tell, Grandfather had ALS/ A Lateral Sclerosis– commonly called Lou Gehrig’s Disease.
I know a few people surmised Dayer had a stroke. But many – such as Dayer’s Doctors, Grandma Maud, and my mother – said Grandpa died of “Muscular Dystrophy” or “Lead Poisoning,” due to all the lead paint he used those many years he painted houses.
However, a little online research shows Grandpa’s symptoms matched ALS/A-Lateral Sclerosis — not Lead Poisoning nor Muscular Dystrophy/MD.
MD/ Muscular Dystrophy Symptoms:
The following are links to symptoms of Muscular Dystrophy/MD, A Lateral Sclerosis/ALS, and Lead Poisoning (Check these and other online Info to see for yourself which symptoms fit Dayer LeBaron’s incapacitating illness):
ALS/Lou Gehrig’s Disease only runs in the genes of around 10% of families who’ve been diagnosed with a family member that has/had ALS.
I was told my sister Judith Spencer Gardner died at age 64 of ALS. Like Grandfather-like granddaughter? Or you can say it was only a coincidence these two close relatives died of ALS. Sure hope you’re right.
Alma Dayer LeBaron, Lou Gehrig’s Disease,
and “Who Got the Button?”
BORN IN POLYGAMY
(A Speech by Rebecca Kimbel,
Speaker, Producer, Activist, Educator, YouTube Blogger,
Author, Philanthropist, Artist, Writer, Mother, Wife,
And Ex-Mormon Fundamentalist:
(YOUTUBE, 425-POLYGAMY: WHAT LOVE IS THIS?):
“For Mormon fundamentalists, allowing everyone, including people of color and women, to have equal rights, is a sin against God.
“We were regimentally trained in blind obedience and self-sacrifice from our earliest memories. “
We were taught that the priesthood leaders spoke for God and we knew NO other way of life.
“In my world, the men had the power; the women had the responsibility.
“The men had the freedom; the women had the servitude.
” The man made the rules and if anything went wrong, the women got the blame and the consequences.
“Men were to become Gods in eternity, which most of them believed started NOW; and women were born to serve them and have their children.”
I left off in the last web-log/blog, “Pt 35-A,” saying:
My sister Judith Spencer Gardner died at age 64 of ALS. Like Grandfather-like granddaughter? Or you could say it was a coincidence these two relatives died of ALS?
Judy exhibited and died of the same debilitating symptoms that eventually took her Grandpa Dayer LeBaron’s life.
Shortly before his death, in 1951, when we lived in St. George, Utah–I then an inquisitive, observant five-year-old– my uncles Floren and Verlan brought Grandpa Dayer to visit us and say his last goodbye to his daughter Esther, my mother.
During Grandpa’s visit, he couldn’t utter a sound, had to be spoon-fed, and was carried about in a “chair” his two sons formed with their arms.
Being in his last stages of ALS, he drooled as he ate– because at this late stage of the disease, even his swallowing muscles were failing him, adding to the rest of his defunct muscular system. As is typical of ALS, Only his eye muscles and brain remained intact.
During that final visit, while his young son Floren gallantly held him up in a chair, so he could join us at the dinner table, Grandpa looked sadly and intently into my eyes, as though he were trying to tell me something; because he couldn’t talk nor touch me.
Then he began to concentrate on the struggle of swallowing soup his son Verlan spooned into his mouth, most of it dribbling down his chin quicker than Verlan could get it in.
What I’m getting at in this essay is that
in the last stages of ALS, you aren’t able to lay your hands on your son’s head; let alone give him a long blessing …
Let alone tell him you’ve bestowed upon him the Melchizedek priesthood, anointed him with the Johnson mantle; and appointed him to take your position as “the one mighty and strong” — Pontiff over the whole wide world!
Grandpa Dayer was incapable of saying anything, in his last days. Neither could he lift a finger — let alone his arms!
That said, no WAY could he have laid his hands on my Uncle Joel’s head, let alone could he have told this son the special “Mantle” or “Scepter of Power” he, Dayer, supposedly held was now being passed on to him, Joel … as in “From father to son.”
Apparently, Grandpa Dayer – who heard voices from time to time and also saw visions now and then – had told his wife Maud and his seven sons that he held a special priesthood power, the highest priesthood on earth – the same priesthood power the Prophet Joseph Smith held. And they believed it! (But they didn’t believe in psychology!)
I only know most of his sons claimed to have received this “Mantle/Scepter of Power” from their dad Dayer before he died. But: “Button, button! Who did get the button?” The answer is still up for grabs.
At least none of them got ALS passed down to them …
none but my sister Judith, his granddaughter, it appears.
Mom, Dad, and
Dayer LeBaron’s Death
“Mother love is the fuel that enablesAuthor Unknown
a normal human being to do the impossible.”
In one or two places, my Grandmother Maud LeBaron is recorded as having said:
“Joel “must be crazy if he’s claiming to have received any priesthood authority from his pa! Dayer was completely incapacitated; incapable of talking or using his muscles in any way, shape, or form in the last few months of his life!”
In A-Lateral Sclerosis/ALS/Lou Gehrig’s disease, most sufferers, in their final stages, remain mentally alert, but are unable to use muscles — other than those of eyes and brain; to the point they can no longer swallow food.
They can only look at you intently with their eyes.
As said in the previous essay, that’s the stage Grandpa was in when Mother’s brothers brought him to visit us, shortly before he died; so he could say goodbye to his daughter Esther.
Soon thereafter, Grandfather Dayer LeBaron passed on to the other side. And Mama received a letter telling her, her beloved papa had left this world.
After opening the envelope, she quickly disappeared into her bedroom. Later, I discovered her, red-eyed and writhing in anguish, as she wept alone on her bed; the opened letter lying beside her. It’s the only time I ever saw Mama cry.
She was grieving intensely because she’d hoped and longed to return to Mexico to be near her papa and family again. Instead, her dad died, ill and without her. And she would never again be with him in this world.
Four years before her father Dayer died, Daddy had moved Mama away from her home and motherland, Mexico, to live in the United States; promising he’d take her back again — as soon as he could afford to support his family in a foreign country where he, an American, wasn’t allowed to earn a living wage.
However, Daddy was all too happy NOT to be around Ma’s pa. I recall him frequently referring to Grandpa Dayer as, “That damned ole A.D. LeBaron!”
Whenever Mama brought up her pa, Papa blurted exacerbated expletives and diatribes, such as the following:
“Yer crazy, crack-pot Pa ain’t worth a damn!! He’s NOT a man of his word! The less I have to deal with yer pa, the happier we’ll all be! He’s a fart, full of himself, full of shit, and full of foolish notions and shenanigans!
“Yer pa can’t be trusted — even far as I can toss him! Can’t be relied upon to do a thing but preach, tell tall-tales, and take advantage of everyone financially with his never-ending money schemes, false promises, fabrications; and revelations!
“That damned ole A.D. is all talk! The money he owes me, I expect we’ll never see again! But you can bet he’d be back tomorrow beggin’ to borrow more if I gave him half a chance!”
To be sure, neither Pa nor Grandpa had much tact. I’m not surprised they clashed, these two outspoken, fanatic, Mormon-Fundi “priesthood holders.”
We have to “prize” the times these two stubborn stalwarts ever got along long enough for Pa to get “the prize,” my Ma, away from her pa … who also prized Ma!
- In case some people still believe, A.D. LeBaron died of MD, please visit the following link:
Memoir of a Plyg:
EDIFICATION at Utah’s Hurricane High School:
He who has a why to live can bear almost any how.NIETZSCHE
That which does not kill us makes us stronger.
He who fights with monsters might take care lest he thereby become a monster. And if you gaze for long into an abyss, the abyss gazes also into you.
MY LIFE’S STRENGTHENING *
Hey, I was supposed to spend my life on the Riviera drinking wine. So what am I doing in front of you reciting this rhyme about Life’s strengthening, BIG TIME; and living to tell about it, line by line?
Nietzsche said what doesn’t kill us,
Strengthens us in time;
I should be mighty strong, then;
And doin’ fine!
Samples of my strengthening came in 1953:
When I was seven, the small polygamist enclave wherein I lived (Short Creek, Arizona/AKA: Colorado City/Hill Dale, Utah) was raided by lawmen: Utah and Arizona’s police-action effort to rid their borders of the growing menace of polygamy’s lawlessness.
During this police action, everyone in Short Creek’s reclusive cult was taken into captivity. The men were incarcerated, including their self-proclaimed Prophet LeRoy Johnson. During their jail time, Daddy saw “Uncle Roy” do things “no prophet would ever do!”
So, when freed from jail in 1956, Daddy moved his family to the nearby mainstream-Mormon town Hurricane, Utah — a small agrarian site where no “Plyg Kid”/Mormon fundamentalist should ever have lived — due to most mainline Mormons’ intolerance of Mormon Fundies.
However, we lived there five years; experiencing painful persecution perpetrated by most of Hurricane’s mainline Mormon teachers and classmates alike—so-called “Latter-Day Saints”/LDS who abandoned polygamy in 1890.”
But my Mormon-Fundy Pa’s stance on this was:
“The Prophet Joseph Smith said we’d be damned if we didn’t live polygamy! So I’ll be damned if I’ll be damned for giving it up!”
So he didn’t. So his kids were damned to suffer for it. So we did! So the following is an example of what I endured due to my fanatic parents’ decisions; and the small-town’s general ostracism toward “Plygs”/Mormon Fundies.
In 8th grade, in a wild attempt to displace me, a Plyg, with a mainstream Mormon kid—so I wouldn’t again end up in the town’s paper as top student—my “Latter-Day-Saint” English teacher Ms. Naegle told us, only four days before the end of the school year:
“Your homework this week is to memorize the whole 105 English prepositions! Anyone who doesn’t memorize them … in order … from A to Z … BY FRIDAY … WILL get an ‘F’ as their final grade!”
So sure was she nobody could do this maniacal assignment, she figured it would get me, Miss Plyggy, out of position as “Best Student.”
She was almost right: Nobody but me did it!
I pert-near met my Maker; but succeeded in memorizing that whole list of nonsense words — on top of homework from other classes; and after-school chores.
Come Friday, I was fit to be tied!
My brain was fried!
But I recited the whole 105
Without a glitch.
It didn’t please the old witch;
She almost died
When her eighty-four 8th graders cried:
“Nobody but Beulah (Stephany) memorized
Those 105 prepositions,
Though we all tried!”
So I, “Inferior Fundy” in their eyes,
Again beat all the little Saints,
Avoided an “F” as my “prize;”
And, instead, garnered the
“Preposition Pulitzer Prize”!
But Miss Naegle didn’t recognize me;
Didn’t give an “F” to her other eighty-three–
Though they failed the assignment miserably;
Didn’t even let on she’d ever assigned
Horrendous homework this unkind!
Since then, the only thing I find memorizing those prepositions has been good for is mesmerizing captive audiences like you!
So here goes “The 105 English Prepositions” —
the world’s longest, albeit irrational, cuss-word:
At-about-above-aboard-across-according to-along-alongside-against-among-amongst-amid-amidst-around-after-before-behind-below-beneath-beside-besides-between-betwixt-beyond-but-because of-by-by way of-by means of-by reason of-by virtue of-concerning-considerin-down-during-despite-due to-‘ere-except-excepting-for-from-in-into-instead of-in care of-in case of-in front of-in place of-in spite of-in accordance with-in reference to-in preference to-in regard to-in regards to-in respect to-in addition to-like-‘mid-‘midst-near-‘neath-notwithstanding-of-off-on-onto-on account of-on top of-over-o’er-out-outside-past-‘round-respecting-regarding-since-save-sans-to-towards-through-throughout-’till-unless-until-up-upon-unto-under-underneath-via-versus-Vs.-with-within-without-with respect to or for-without respect to or for-with reference to-without reference to-with preference to-without preference for!
*This concludes the 105-Prepositions
For more mesmerizing essays on my life’s edification/ education, see my web logs (blogs/essays) at StephanySpencer.com—Stephany with a “Y.”
Comments on my California Writers Club
Open-Mic Preposition Presentation:
God does things for a reason. He does have a wonderfully foolproof sense of humor… as do you. You made me laugh Thursday at Open Mic like I haven’t laughed in oh so long!
Your rendition was a perfect little piece of genius … and your recitation at the end was brilliant. It did nothing but add to the piece.
I have done loads of theatre, film and literary reviews; but your amazing preposition rendition was unusual, exhilarating new stuff; and literally brought me back to life.
It may have and probably did save my life…your leaning over my shoulder at the end of the reading and telling me that I “ought to be one of the poet laureates” really made me feel good — I mean better than I have felt for a long, long time. This morning I feel like myself for the first time in many years. ~Rad
Esther LeBaron & Floyd Spencer:
Fights, Plights, and Physical Punishment
When you lead your sons and daughtersELIJAH BEN SOLOMON ZALMAN
in the good way, let your words be tender and caressing,
in terms of discipline that wins the heart’s assent.”
Whatever the cause of insanity in my Mexico-LeBaron-Johnson line; or the problems between my Father and Grandfather Dayer, I’m glad Mother wouldn’t marry Father till he made a pact with her NEVER to argue nor fight in front of her kids.
My otherwise strict and domineering Dad not only agreed to her demand, but fairly well stuck to it, the whole time I was growing up. My parent’s disagreements and problems were solved in their bedroom behind closed doors. Thank God!
But two years after I married and left home, Daddy lost his temper, blew his stack in front of the kids; broke his pact with Ma – and her heart – for the first and last time – another story for another time.
However, Daddy loved Mother – and feared her pact – so much that during the sixteen years I lived at home, sensitive and high strung though he was, my sometimes sadistic King Dad managed – at least when not in their bedroom, or out of earshot – to always keep his cool with meek, submissive Mom – no matter how disorganized the house might be when he got home from a hard day’s work!
But my serenity-loving and creative Mom did much to help keep the peace in our home; even if she couldn’t keep up with the overwhelming responsibilities of birthing fourteen kids and suffering at least six miscarriages in the space of 21 years – on top of keeping up the home.
For one thing, my perennially-pregnant Ma avoided many unpleasant, unsettling situations with her idol, my perfect Patriarch Pa, by trying to always have his meals on time and the house clean when he got home from work.
Mother found this helped immensely to keep calm in the home, once she found herself married to not only a gifted artist replete with the artist’s temper, but a man suffering World War I Veterans’ Shell Shock/ PTSD/Post-Traumatic Stress Syndrome.
How did Ma manage Pa? She believed in and lived by the Mormon fundamentalist precept that her husband was priesthood head of the family; so had the first, last, and every other word in between, when it came to his family!
Mama couldn’t even give me permission to spend the night at a girlfriend’s home, nor let me attend a party I was invited to, without first asking King Daddy’s consent; which consent he generally denied.
The following are typical King-Dad outbursts, when it came to our socializing — over and above attending Church and Sunday School:“Don’t be traipsin’ about town, pickin’ up bad habits and worldly ideas from other people – people ALWAYS trespassing against God’s laws!
And don’t think yer everybody’s little darlings, either!
“You have plenty of brothers ‘n’ sisters to play with; and work to do! Stay ta home where ya belong and help yer ma!”
Such was usually King Dad’s
Response to our wants.
So that’s how my social life went –
And my lonely youth spent.
But I’m glad my mom
Could at least circumvent
Our hearing parental discontent
Esther LeBaron & Floyd Spencer:
Fights, Plights, and Physical Punishment
Silence only benefits the oppressor.BRENDA’S JOURNEY:
Those who love truth, and want to help victims,
are open to discussion and want to hear
how to help better.”
USING SURVIVOR’S TRAUMA–
HELP DON’T HARM
I left off in “Pt 38-A” saying:
That’s how our social life went;
That’s how my lonely youth was spent.
But I’m glad Ma could circumvent
Our hearing parental
Discontent and argument.
But it doesn’t mean she didn’t constantly get me in trouble with King Pa — ’cause she did! Sicking him onto me, the family scapegoat, was Ma’s favorite defensive/combat sport, by the time I was fourteen. It won her points – got pissed Pa – my Patriarchal Pap – off her back and onto mine in two seconds!
E.g.: If King Dad came home from work in the evening, tired and hungry, only to find his meal not cooked and the house dirty, Queen Ma could quickly complain:
“Well, Beulah wouldn’t help me!” (Even though I had spent the whole day out in the hot sun, alone, scrubbing the family wash on a washboard–while she and the rest of the kids followed their whims, entertained friends, or whatever.)
Another way Ma helped keep peace in the family and “Patriarchal Pap” off her back was never to intervene in his “authority” – such as when he was meeting out punishment; ie, physical and mental abuse upon his children.
Wish Ma had protected us in that way, too.
Perhaps she didn’t know what to do.
When it came to men’s “rights”
And how they disciplined “brats,”
Ma imitated what she saw and knew –
What she’d learned all the while she grew.
Be that what it may, if she interfered with Patriarch Pa’s disciplining, Ma could’ve been in for a beating in her back bedroom, behind closed doors – one reason she never overstepped her bounds by questioning, disobeying, or undermining anything Patriarchal Pappy did or said.
Nonetheless, our parents’ personal problems and disagreements were never discussed in front of us – one thing Mama was able to control. Because she knew she did not want her children to suffer the painful drama she and her siblings endured due to their parents’ frequent terrible fights and arguments.
Other than that, Mother, ever living in her dreamworld, had but good and glorious things to say about her “One Mighty and Strong” perfect pa, her outstanding ma, her wonderful, heavenly childhood – and her Godly, Saintly upbringing.
She created the world she wanted to live in. To her credit, Mother never once had a bad thing to say about her parents or family–only good things!
Eg., She told me she was so good and so loved by her (often-absent) pa, he only gave her one beating her whole life. “And I deserved it,” she proclaimed. She wouldn’t divulge what she did that deserved her Patriarchal Pa’s punishment.
Was she implying I, however,
Did deserve abusive treatment from King Dad ?
Or was she off in La-la-Land,
Wading up to ‘er eyeballs
I only know,
here on earth below,
in her “real” world of wonderment,
and Patriarchal Government,
her hubby King Daddy
was head of his family;
Physical punishment was the norm,
her folks having come from the old country;
and she born and bread on fanatic,
Patriarchal “Profit” Joe-Smith-Brig-Young
beliefs and bylaws –
including female subjugation.
Farewell to Floren McDonald LeBaron:
The Last of The LeBarons
FLOREN MCDONALD LEBARON
The Last Farewell
“THE BEST IS YET TO COME!”
(My Uncle Floren’s favorite saying)
On February 17, 2019,
Two months before his 92nd birthday,
Floren McDonald LeBaron
Left this earthly helm
To join his family
In a heavenly realm.
Fourth youngest of thirteen kids,
Floren was my favorite uncle;
They broke the form
When he was born.
Often I write about
Dark sides of the Mexico-LeBarons.
But I loved, still love my uncles—
Even Evil Ervil.
Though I grieve
The ruined lives
ErVile left in his wake,
This criminally-insane miscreant
Schizophrenia did create.
Why don’t we stop loving sinners,
Though their evil
Turns us inside-out
In seismic somersaults
Churning us about:
We all have good sides and bad.
Some lean more
To one side than the other.
We don’t forget good deeds
Done by another.
We try to reconcile the bad,
Wishing it weren’t so.
But can’t condemn the ignorant,
The mentally-off foe –
Compassion won’t let us.
Hope springs eternal.
And so …
We try to understand;
Show where they went wrong;
Rant against their misdeeds
Our life long.
But in Judgment’s seat
We don’t belong.
God’s the ultimate Judge
Of our song.
Says niece Vicki:
“My father-in-law Floren believed:
Most people are good most of the time;
All people are good part of the time;
We need to give people a chance
To prove themselves
All the time.
“Floren wasn’t prejudiced.
He saw the best in everybody,
Treated everyone as an equal,
Believed in repentance,
And gave everybody
The benefit of the doubt.”
Uncle Floren loved
cheering up people.
He always got a smile
when he’d say:
“I hope for the best,
Look for the worst,
And take what comes
With a grain of salt:
The best is yet to come!”
And till we meet again
On the other side,
My loving, unforgettable
Much thanks to my niece, Vicky Rogers LeBaron, for allowing me to share this following Tribute — a touching Farewell Eulogy to her father-in-law/my uncle,
Floren McDonald LeBaron:
HOW CAN WE POSSIBLY SAY GOODBYE?
By Vicky Rogers LeBaron:
A Tribute to Floren McDonald LeBaron
~ Memorial Service: Feb. 22, 2019 ~
Today we are honoring a truly great man, that, in some way, big or small, has made an impact on each of us, touched our lives, and changed us for the better. Most of us here are blessed enough to call him “Uncle”, “Grampa”, “Daddy” or “Friend”.
Floren McDonald LeBaron was born in Colonia Juarez, Chihuahua, Mexico, on April 17th, 1927, to his loving parents, Alma Dayer LeBaron, Sr. and Maud Lucinda McDonald.
Floren entered this life as the tenth of thirteen children his mother had. He lived a happy childhood among the orchards, mountains, valleys and rivers that surrounded his childhood home. His days were always filled with outdoor adventures and animals; usually dogs, goats and horses.
He fell in love with horses at the age of ten — about the time he bought his first horse. He ended up with several more within a couple of years. He so enjoyed being around these lovely creatures, as a young man he went on to break them in and train them on a Horse Ranch in Arizona, for eleven years.
Iit’s not surprising then, that “Strawberry Roan,” a song by Marty Robbins about a horse that couldn’t be broke, was one of his favorite songs; and he sang it to his kids and grandkids from time to time. He’d also play hymns on the harmonica, a favorite musical instrument among cowboys. “Don’t Fence Me In” was another song he liked that echoed his own sentiments.
His free spirit and zeal to live his life to the fullest in the great outdoors often led to good natured pranks brought on by too much energy when he was caged up in a schoolhouse.
His imagination and ingenuity were too big for his classrooms. And they frequently got him in trouble with his teachers. He liked to claim that his teachers only ever passed him on to the next grade, so they could get him out of their classroom every year.
Being locked up in school was mostly torture for Floren. But he loved to learn — just not in a classroom! He had the genius brain of an inventor and needed hands on experience to immerse himself in a thousand new possibilities.
And, like most true inventors, his mind moved on to the next new invention as soon as he had figured out the last one. He didn’t have time to waste messing around with something he already understood. That was old news: He’d teach the next guy how to put his invention to good use, then move on to the next exciting discovery! Making a profit from his inventions was never his aim or intentions.
He had a great love of animals, but the curiosity of the inventor in him could never let them alone. He was always experimenting with them, trying to figure out a better way to train or raise them. Whether it was raising suckling calves off of milk goats, or training his goat dogs to think they were goats, he always found joy in his endeavors and each new process or invention was his “best one yet!”
He periodically boasted that “He once had a horse he’d almost had trained to live without eating or drinking anything. But just about the time he had it fully trained, it up and died on him!”
He was quick witted and a natural-born joker, 🤹🏼♂ 🥳 He enjoyed a good laugh … whether it was at your expense, or his own!
In the words of the old English poet E. Arnold Bennett, “Happiness includes chiefly the idea of satisfaction after full honest effort. No one can possibly be satisfied and no one can possibly be happy who feels that in some paramount affairs he failed to take up the challenge of life.”
Floren did not fail this test! He took up the challenges of his life with more honest effort, hard-work, and dedication to his convictions than most other men could ever muster!
He had more faith, hopes, big dreams and high expectations of his many projects, goals, plans, inventions, and ways to raise goats and grow gardens, than any other man I’ve ever known.
He was seldom, if ever, negative. He always looked on the bright side of everything, saying, “The best is yet to come!” His optimistic outlook on the future and his never ending enthusiasm made it easy to believe in his projects and visions of the possibilities. [Emily Dickinson’s “Think in terms of possibilities” could well have been his motto.]
Many men walked away from a joint venture with him, or the next “best” investment project, disillusioned because they’d never see the fruits from their investment before Floren would drop it and move on to the next project. He never felt like any of them were failures because he’d proved that all of them could work!
He was a man who believed that “most people are good most of the time, and all people are good part of the time,” so we needed to give people a chance to prove themselves.
He wasn’t prejudice. He saw the best in everyone; treated everyone as an equal. He believed in repentance. And gave everyone the benefit of the doubt. He was an enemy to no one, and a friend to everyone. He truly loved his fellow man.
Floren was not “perfect” by any means. But, then, nobody is! In comparison to his good traits, his flaws were insignificant. He sincerely tried to improve any that he was aware of. They were his personal trials and he actively tried to overcome them.
He loved his family: His children, grandchildren, daughters and sons-in-laws, and his friends — from a REAL place in his heart.
He was never superficial; never put on airs. Floren was true to himself, his family, and his God. He had no dark secrets to hide. You could read Floren like an open book and it was easy reading.
He had a thousand exciting adventures to tell about a lifetime that could easily be compared to a Louis L’Amour western novel. It’s no wonder Louis L’Amour was his favorite author — and the books he chose to turn to, to unwind and rest his weary mind.
Floren was an avid reader. And spent hours a day studying the Scriptures and old church histories, etc. He had his Bible “so well trained it opened at once to the verse he’d command!”
If Floren was awake, the cogs in his brain were turning. They usually started up about 4:00 am. Anyone willing to discuss religion with him, over a cup of coffee at his kitchen table, was always welcome!
(The family, can probably, justifiably, blame all their coffee addictions on Dad. After all, it’s the fond memories of a cup of coffee and early morning Scripture studies and good laughs with him that keep us all attached to it!)
He loved old cowboy flicks. But “Rio Bravo” was his favorite movie. You couldn’t count the times he’d watched it over the years. And then there was RUMMY. How many hours have we all spent talking over the events of the day while trying to beat Dad at a hand of rummy?♠️♥️♣️♦️
Such good times will never be forgotten!
He once appeared in a 1957 movie called “Run of the Arrow.” He played the part of an extra dressed like an Indian riding on a horse of course!
Floren’s life was deep rooted in true happiness. He never succumbed to the blows of his hardships. He always picked himself up, dusted himself off, and persevered with more determination than he had done before.
In the words of E. Arnold Bennett “What great cause is he identified with?…. why He’s identified with the great cause of cheering us all up!”🥳. And so it was with Floren. His optimism was infectious. It was hard to ever be in a bad mood around him for long!
He put himself to the task of trying to put a smile on someone’s face, especially if he sensed you were down. He loved to see people laugh! He’d joke with complete strangers that he’d met on the bus, or in town. It was his surefire way of striking up a friendly conversation.
Even in the latter part of his life, just to get them laughing, Floren was always asking a riddle, telling a favorite old joke, or pulling a good-natured prank on an unsuspecting grandkid who’d come to visit him — like inviting you to dance with him so he could snatch the chair you were sitting in after he spun you around a couple of times — or giving someone a friendly smack, then teasing them with the line, “Didn’t anyone ever tell you it’s not right to hit an old man with glasses?” He was quite the character!
He loved to revisit his memories by telling stories of his adventurous past of being challenged to foot races and winning them all. Or riding through the “Blue Mountains” with his best buddy Marden Spencer, and their incredible adventures on their hunting trips together.
Or those stories of his guardian angel whom he was sure had a sense of humor to match his own, and occasionally enjoyed “pulling a fast one” on Floren — by sewing his watch into the cuff lining of the bottom of his pants; or putting the sole of his shoe, that had just fallen off, up on top of a boulder sticking a few feet above the water, in the middle of the river, right where he knew Floren would have to cross it!
Floren, only minutes before, had realized he’d lost a sole from the bottom of his shoe somewhere down the road behind him. He’d been walking for hours and now, pressed for time, knew there was no turning back to look for it. Still, he’d been concerned with his large feet; that being out in the middle of Nicaragua among the small natives with tiny feet, he wouldn’t be able to find another pair of shoes to fit him.
As he crossed the river with his shoes in hand, he saw the sole OF HIS BOOT on top of the rock. It was a perfect match for the right foot, and there wasn’t another living soul anywhere around for miles. It had to have been set there by his guardian angel, no doubt!
One of his favorite stories to tell was the time he took his dad to the movie theater to see the movie “Francis, the Talking Mule”. Floren’s squinted little eyes would get big and light up as he recalled how his father laughed so hard at the movie his dentures would soon start to fall from his mouth. Because he had no control over his arms or hands, Floren would have to put the dentures back in his mouth for him! That story brought a smile to Floren’s face EVERY TIME he retold it.
Floren found as much joy in making people laugh and putting a smile on their faces as did the people he was trying to bring joy to.
Over the years, nothing was more typical than to see Floren returning from a hard day’s work covered in mud and drenched in sweat, cheerfully whistling or humming a favorite hymn as he walked down the road after spending the whole day in his “eras” or building fences for his beloved goats.
He was light hearted and enthusiastic about life, and always counted his blessings! He considered himself a rich man, not in worldly possessions, or financial gain, but in the things in life that really mattered to him: His God, his family, his friends and his freedom.
He believed in life, in liberty, the pursuit of happiness, the right to love and be loved, and that respecting the rights of others was the best way to obtain peace.
Floren believed in looking out for the poor and never passing a poor beggar by without giving him something. He taught that we should care for the sick, the needy, the orphans, and widows. And that we shouldn’t live above our means and get into debt.
You could say Floren was the original minimalist. He believed that “We should all come down to a higher standard of living.” And that “Having less is having more: More peace of mind, more time to spend doing the things that you love, more freedom from the cares of maintaining so many possessions, and more to share with your neighbor.
Floren, while in his teens, was indisputably instrumental in helping his father clear the valley, and settle the community of Colonia LeBaron, in the ejido of Galeana, Chihuahua, México. This major event in his life infected him at a young age with the “pioneer spirit.” Ever afterwards, he was on the forefront of settling new communities: From the mountains above El Valle to the beaches of Baja California, and the jungles of Nicaragua, Belize, and the Yucatan peninsula, Floren forged the way for others to follow.
He had a great affinity for water and watery savannah lands. Perhaps it was inspired by ISAIAH 32:20: “Blessed are ye that sow beside all waters, that send forth thither the feet of the ox and the ass” — one of his favorite Scriptures to quote.
Whatever it was that sparked his interest, he always seemed to be trying to get water up from under the ground; or to be planting his crops in the savannas or next to rivers and on top of “floating eras” in lakes where watering and weeding, the necessary evils of gardening, wouldn’t be necessary. He believed his efforts would be blessed.
When he lived up in the mountains in Chihuahua, he designed and developed a few water systems that ran hundreds of yards deep underground, from the distant hills to neighboring communities. He was the driving force and means that brought free running water to the families of over 200 farmers in the area at the time.
The news spread of his incredible feat of engineering! Soon the Federal Government of México, recognizing the potential of one of his projects, subsequently invested millions of pesos at the time, to enlarge and expand it.
Floren, never charged his neighbors for these services. Instead, he donated his time and efforts to seeing them through to completion. His vision and efforts have, no doubt, blessed thousands of families in those areas ever since.
When his older brother Joel asked Floren to give him a ride up to Farmington Canyon, in Utah, and told him he wouldn’t return until he had some answers regarding the “Johnson Mantle” that their father had given him, Floren quickly agreed to drive him there and pick him back up afterwards…the rest is documented history!
Suffice it to say that Floren was the first man to hear Joel’s testimony, the first man to believe in his mission, the first man Joel ordained, and the first one Joel gave a mission to, to preach
Floren was beside Joel from the beginning. And was a founding pillar in establishing “The Church of the First Born of the Fulness of Times.” He stood by Joel through all the trials … through thick and thin — right through to the tragic end.
Shortly before Joel’s death, he “commissioned” Floren to “find a place in the south to establish a food stronghold — a place where the saints could gather in their time of need. So again, Floren pioneered the way into the unknown jungles of Central America, all the while staying in the front ranks of the march of the saints to the south.
With a sense of purpose and a renewed faith in the task at hand, and the firm knowledge that the Lord would provide the way to accomplish the task that was given to him, Floren set off for Nicaragua with some trusted companions. He never believed that failure was even a possibility because he knew “It was the right thing to do”.
When he and the others working alongside him were forced to leave their homes in Nicaragua in the 1970’s, because of the war that broke out there, Floren simply looked around for the next door to open … as the door to Nicaragua closed forever behind him.
Over the years, Floren often longed to return to the hills and climate of Nicaragua, and to its people that he loved. But when the way didn’t open up again, he made his home in the tropics of the Yucatan Peninsula — first in Belize and later in Quintana Roo, Mexico.
He always had a deep love and respect for the native people wherever he went. Their simple ways, humility, and welcoming attitudes warmed his heart. He tried to emulate their ways.
He was often accused of neglecting his family’s needs, because he chose to live like the natives around him: in stick wall huts with thatched, leaf roofs and “sascaab” dirt floors, often without electricity or any “modern conveniences.”
But Floren loved this pioneer lifestyle — and the opportunities for character growth that it provided for his children. In a world with increasingly less freedom, as a result of the modernization and ever growing cities, he watched his beloved outdoors and the ejido system shrinking — even as he searched for a life of freedom and opportunities for his family — a place where his children would be able to roam freely in nature, and enjoy the outdoors the way he did as a boy, without a care in the world. Now that’s a rare treasure!
When I questioned him once, about tending to his family’s wants and needs better, in a kind and gentle voice, full of faith, he replied with his usual friendly and reassuring manner:
“Aren’t they my Father in Heaven’s children more than mine? Doesn’t he feed and clothe the lilies of the valleys and the birds in the trees?”
“Yes.” I replied.
“Well, how much greater than I does our loving Heavenly Father understand the just wants and needs of my family and the desires of their hearts; can he not provide for them better than I?”
Of course, I knew the answer was again “Yes.” I never questioned his motives again.
He had a way with words and reasoning. Very rarely would anyone with ought against him walk away without having the problem settled peaceably.
Floren had firm principles, beliefs, and standards; and lived by them to the best of his ability, never relinquishing his faith and beliefs to try to impress someone influential, or to spare the wrath of someone who disagreed with him — Although he adamantly insisted on claiming “the right to change his mind whenever he chose to!” Which he did frequently, over the years, as his understanding of the Scriptures increased, and greater knowledge was gained through his trials and errors. He was never afraid to admit he’d been wrong before.
Out with the old and in with the new! Floren was constantly seeking new experiences and greater understanding. But above all else he sought for, he sought to find favor in the sight of God.
Floren would often ask young adults, with a voice full of excitement and a sparkle in his eye, “Did you know that you are fulfilling prophecy today?! We all are! And we can choose to fulfill the positive side or the negative side of prophecy. Which side will you choose? “
Floren definitely had his fair share of hardships, uncertainty, and personal struggles. But in the pursuit of his religious convictions, hopes, dreams, and personal happiness, he never lost his sense of humor, his hard-work ethics, his decency and honesty, nor his kind and gentle nature.
He firmly believed that “Everything happened for a purpose.” And that “We should acknowledged the hand of God in all things.”
He was the last living child of his father’s household, and the beloved Patriarch of his own. For almost 92 years, Floren fully maintained his quick wit, analytical mind, ingenuity, and memory. His mind was never clouded with the cobwebs that so often come with old age. Although his sight had dimmed and his hearing diminished, he was thinking clearly and talking about “the next project,” and sharing his excitement about new project ideas and possibilities … up until just minutes before he left this world.
How can we say goodbye? When we think of this incredible man and how much he achieved in his lifetime, we remember a man that had the courage to face the uncertain future with unwavering faith in God as he traveled the often frightening and unpredictable path that lay before him. Hardwork, perseverance, humility, honesty, decency, love, and respect for his fellow man were the hallmarks of his character.
He lived a good long life the only way he knew how: He lived life his way! Still, 92 years is never enough time for someone that you want to keep around forever!
So, as we reluctantly say our last goodbye to this amazing man who means so much more to us all than words can say (and I’m sure none of us can imagine living life without him there to turn to), for his sake, we can reconcile ourselves in knowing that he’s been reunited with some of his greatest friends, his siblings, and his loving parents. I’m quite certain that the heavens echoed with shouts of joy when Floren returned home.
Outstretched arms welcomed him back into a loving embrace. And tears of joy were shed. We know he made the “final cut.” He was a choice soul!
As the hot tears stream down our puffy, red faces, reminding us of the immeasurable love we had for him, and we say our last goodbyes, let’s remember that we will see him again in the not too distant future.
For his sake, let’s try to live lives that reflect all the joy and love he showed us. And remember the lessons we’ve learned from him. And let’s make him laugh and smile, cause you know he never liked to see any of us sad!
Rest in peace, Dad! We will love you forever!
~Vicky R. LeBaron