Pt 40-B:
Esther LeBaron Spencer:
Ma, Pa, Me, and Pitfalls of Polygamy

Gifted Susan Ray Schmidt was part of my Uncle Verlan LeBaron’s harem. After escaping polygamy, she penned the above super memoir. Her writer’s voice reads like a 19th-century Jane Austen novel.

“The root of all superstition is that men observe when a thing hits, but not when it misses.” 

Francis Bacon

I left off in the last blog saying there’s no question the Mexico-LeBarons were scapegoats for sick people: Only sick people need scapegoats. [1]

However, that’s not to say some Mexico-LeBarons’ behavior, idiosyncrasies, and Peccadilloes didn’t bring on part of the ostracism they suffered.

But, despite the scapegoating that included persecution, being the talk of the town, etc., the Mexico-LeBarons, nonetheless, had friends and families in the Mexican Mormon colonies and elsewhere who stood by them for a lifetime. Tom/Osmond Jone’s family, Hector Spencer’s family, and Homer Babbitt’s family are examples I can think of, off the top of my head.

But some LeBarons’ tendencies to brag and to disregard social mores [2], alone, was enough to get the whole family blackballed, bullied, and treated by many, in the Mormon colonies—and even the Mormon fundamentalist groups—as renegades, scapegoats, and scum; adding to the devastating problems, low self-esteem, and embarrassment mental illness already caused Maud and Dayer’s family—the Mexico-LeBarons.

As if these weren’t enough setbacks, perfectionism and having to work one’s way into heaven compounded the situation, confusion, and devastation in my Mexico-LeBaron family.

Adding to these dilemmas was that part of being perfect, in Orthodox Mormondom, meant perpetuating plural marriage; i.e., marrying one’s children off into polygamy — if only to get kudos and status.

Unfortunately for me, my family, and extended family, this “perfectionism and perpetuating polygamy” carried right on down into my immediate family, my mom Esther being a Mexico-LeBaron.

But one of the biggest moronic injustices—an oxymoron in this Mormon polygamic scenario—is Mom and Dad expected their kids to do things they, themselves, were never able to do—such as live polygamy; as if their offspring were more perfect than they. (Their was the delusion that just by being born into a

That is to say, they pushed their kids into polygamy, even though they didn’t “push” themselves into it. Totally UNFAIR! Totally power-pushing, totalitarian Plygism!

Thanks for visiting! See you in the next blog.
Looking forward to your feedback.
~Stephany Spencer-LeBaron


1. A person who is blamed for the wrongdoings, mistakes, or faults of others; especially for reasons of expediency.
Synonyms: whipping boy, victim, Aunt Sally; More

2. (in the Bible) a goat sent into the wilderness after the Jewish chief priest had symbolically laid the sins of the people upon it (Lev. 16).

Verb: make a scapegoat of. “Few things are harder for kids to bear than being scapegoated”

[2]. › mores:

The term “mores” refers to the norms set by society, largely for behavior and appearance.

Individuals who do not follow social mores are often considered social deviants. … Mores are often dictated by a society’s values, ethics, and sometimes religious influences.

(Continued Sept. 19, 2019, “Pt 41-A: Esther LeBaron Spencer and ‘More on’ LeBaron Madness “)

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