MY EXPOSE ON POLYGAMY
“Was It really a Divine Revelation from God to Joseph Smith that people had to live this so-called “principle” in order to attain the highest degree of glory in heaven?”*
The above question was on the Discussion Board of a mainstream LDS Mormon blog site I happened to run into on Facebook.
Get ready for a mouthful: My having had first-hand experience, the first twenty-one years of my life, makes me an authority on the subject…as much as anyone can be.
It is common for cult leaders to use their power to sow their wild oats. Also, it’s human nature for women to want to be married to the greatest and strongest male in the pack…common in the rest of Nature, too.
So let’s not kid ourselves that Joseph Smith was simply restoring a practice from the Bronze-age Biblical period. That polygamy is a predatory, territorial, male dominance, and prestige-practice is more like it. It’s certainly a reason WHY many men, given the power to do so, love to “experience” going from one woman to the next, like a bumblebee tasting each flower.
It’s a testosterone drive, if nothing else; i.e., Nature’s way of propagating the human race, making sure it doesn’t die out. It’s Nature’s way of also propagating a stronger, better human race–when it comes to women wanting the most outstanding man on the totem pole. Take a look at how apes, et Al, and their Alpha-male system works in Evolution’s procreation, to better understand what I mean.
By the way, my comments come from personal experience. I was raised a fifth-generation Mormon Fundamentalist. And am an Ex-polygamist wife.
My cousin Carolyn Jessop is the best-selling author of Escape. Best-selling authors Irene LeBaron Spencer of Shattered Dreams and Cult Insanity and Susan Ray Schmidt of His Favorite Wife are my Aunts.
Also, Anna LeBaron, author of The Polygamist’s Daughter, is my first cousin. And Ruth Wariner, best-selling author of The Sound Of Gravel, is also my first cousin — daughter of my Uncle Joel LeBaron.
The amazing Ex-Mormon Fundamentalist TV and YouTube Producer and Author Rebecca Kimbel is my aunt through marriage. And the late “Evil Ervil” LeBaron, the Mormon Manson and Ex-Mormon mafioso leader of one of the LeBaron crime families, is my mother’s brother. (See: Wikipedia and my Website Menu for more information on Ervil LeBaron and my extended family.)
To add to my Mormon lineage, my Great-great-grandfather, renowned Benjamin F. Johnson, was one of Joseph Smith’s personal Scribes, his brother-in-law, his Power of Attorney —and sealed to him as a son. That’s how far back and how strong my roots in Mormonism go. (As a Mormon, I was part of the “Royal blood.”)
When polygamy was done away with, in the mainstream Mormon church, devout but wayward laws-unto-themselves Mormon followers, who believed this action was against the teachings and prophecies of Joseph Smith, broke away and formed Mormon-fundamentalist splinter groups.
From here, I’ll segue into a bit of my personal experience of having lived polygamy by stating it’s a well-known fact that most Mormon Fundamentalists are strongly against homosexuality – at least in word. (I’m not so sure about some of them, when it comes to thier actions, however; I don’t think “some of them” are sure, either, LOL!)
It’s not unusual to find Mormon fundamentalists preaching one thing, but doing another “under cover” (Pun intended). No doubt, God “revealed” to them it was okay. My experience is they justify everything with revelation.
Growing up in Mormon fundamentalism, I had no idea homosexuality existed; let alone what the term meant, when I was given away in a pre-arranged marriage, at age sixteen, to a man ten years my senior.
I only “knew” I was being married into “the holy matrimony of Plural Marriage,” in the name of the controversial revelation given to Joseph Smith, and recorded in the 132 Sec. of the Doctrine and Covenants — Mormon Scriptures.
Now hold on to your sandal straps: I suspect this revelation was really revealed to J. Smith by his “small head,” not his large. (Sorry, dear devout Mormons.)
It was many years later, after I escaped the Mormon-Fundy cult in 1967 at age twenty-one, that I began to piece everything together. Only then did I realize the man I was married to for going on five years–William Preston Tucker/Bill Tucker–had been bisexual…as were his first three wives. (I was his fourth wife.)
However, they went to great measures to make sure I never found this out. For they would be cut off “The Church”/the fundamentalist Mormon cult; and maybe beat up or killed, if word got out they were bisexuals. In fact, even involved in threesomes and orgies.(These activities are something I realized only after I left the cult.)
They had very subtly tried to bring me into “the family.” But when I did not respond to such things as the foot one of the wives laid on my foot, the night I was invited to spend with her in her bed, she and the other wife realized I would be getting “their” husband all to myself … on my nights.
This caused the first two wives much jealousy and resentment toward me. They felt threatened and “turned down,” among other things, I suspect. I just did not fit into their love nest.
You can’t imagine the rest of what I endured as an adolescent in that Child-bride marriage, due to “not fitting in.” They even accused me of having ruined Bill’s “family” … because I only wanted a one-on-one relationship with my/our husband.
It wouldn’t have been as bad, had I not been so in love with my/our husband. And had I not been still a very trusting, overprotected, deprived, under-educated, naïve teenager, with, at best, only an 8th-grade formal education.
It’s an understatement to say I was but an innocent sixteen-year-old ingénue who had not been properly prepared for the realities and tribulations of polygamy.
To make matters worse, the first wife was fifteen years my senior: When I was fifteen, she was thirty. The other wife was six years my senior. Both had a High School diploma–the oldest wife also had a B.A. degree. What’s more, I had never been around the block. But they had been around the block more than a few times!
In other words, I was a poor, disadvantaged, unaware girl dumped into a polygamous marriage with a pack of wolves. Practically everything stacked up against me; including that both of my husband’s other wives were not only far older but far more experienced, worldly-wise, and educated than I.
Furthermore, both had been married to “my husband” for numerous years before I came into “the family.” And had born our husband many children.
So they knew what my/our husband liked. And how to manipulate and run him. Plus, the first wife was about five years older than my/our husband … and held the purse strings.
He had to rely on her for money to support me and his other families! It only gets worse from there. I bring this out because it has to do with some of my outlook on polygamy — like who does it work for and who doesn’t it work for?
I am now an Ex-polygamist wife, Ex-plyg, Ex-FLDS, Ex-Mormon fundamentalist, an escapee from the LeBaron cult; and a recovering Mormon.
My testimony is that Mormon polygamy continues to be sustained only under the umbrella of the almighty “religious freedoms” rights!
But there are no rights for the children born and raised in polygamy — often a cesspool lifestyle, if ever there was one.
Mormon fundamentalist sects are nothing but syndicated, organized-crime groups cloaked and protected under the guise of religion.
This plural-marriage lifestyle stinks — especially for the children born into polygamy. And for the innocent, uneducated, naïve childbrides married off to older, even aged men and their harems! It is hell on earth for the majority of people in it!
But masochists take pleasure in pain. They consider it wicked/worldly to have a nice, enjoyable life. So foot-washing Fundies smear a fake smile on their face—to “keep sweet”—and feel successful that this/ keeping sweet is one area wherein they have some control over their life—one thing at which they may succeed…even if they go insane trying.
And sure, there are good things in every bad. However, polygamy is mostly bad — especially for the children who did not ask to be born into this crazy, convoluted, depraved, deprived, abusive, unfair, bizarre, secluded, deluded cult lifestyle.
To begin with, it’s reminiscent of the old feudal-style systems of the Middle Ages … except most people didn’t live polygamy even back then. And most churches had outlawed it!
It is a lifestyle forced upon Mormon fundamentalists through brainwashing, indoctrination, and undue mind-control tactics — from the day they are born … because their own parents were brainwashed and controlled with these same concepts, too, from the day they were born — unless of course, they were converts to this convoluted, extremist, reprehensible lifestyle.
Put another way, most Mormon-Fundamentalist polygamists were born into the polygamist delusional indoctrination.
Or they joined it in the time of Joseph Smith’s leadership and teachings, in the early to mid-1800s — teachings that convinced Smith’s devout followers God commanded them to live polygamy or be damned to hell.
But, other than the polygamist male, mostly only some lesbians may benefit at all from a man having plural wives. To be blunt, I’m referring to “Big Love” nests.
I have known a few lesbian women who swear by polygamy! But my experience is: If you want over-all bad, enter polygamy and find out for yourself, the hard way, what polygamy is all about.
Many inductees, as well as converts to plural marriage, have soon discovered for themselves what polygamy is all about. That is, they found out the hard way why polygamy should never be legalized!
See my many posted blogs for more on this subject. For example, I published a Book Review on my Website called It’s Not About the Sex, My Ass! Written by Joanne Hanks. This book is my first recommended read, if you want to get an insider’s first-hand view of life in polygyny.
See my other blogs and Menu on my website for more Media on polygamy/polygyny and Mormon fundamentalist history and lifestyle.
Also, see listed there and in my archives, films about Mormon fundamentalists, as well as a host of other excellent books written by Ex-polygamist wives and other experts on the subject.
In closing, tell me, are you of the persuasion polygamy should be legal? Why or why not? I would love to read your comments concerning this controversial subject.
Till then, cheers and have a wonderful life. Thanks for visiting my blog at: https://StephanySpencer.com.
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LDS Theses #52: It [the LDS Church] hypocritically claims that polygamy has no place in the contemporary LDS Church even though Joseph Smith’s revelation on polygamy (Doctrine & Covenants 132) is still canonized scripture and “Celestial Polygamy” (being eternally married to at least one more woman after being widowed or divorced) is practiced. Currently, three widowed Mormon Apostles (Dallin H. Oaks, L. Tom Perry, and Russell M. Nelson) are Celestial Polygamists.
From “What is Celestial Polygamy?” by Bill McKeever:
‘Having more than one wife in the “here and now” is grounds for excommunication from the LDS Church; however, the possibility of having more than one wife in the “hereafter” is still very much a part of the Mormon culture. According to an article in the April 20, 2008 edition of the Salt Lake Tribune:
“Though the LDS Church had disavowed polygamy, it is still enshrined in Mormon scripture (Doctrine & Covenants 132) and some believe it will one day be re-established, if not on Earth, at least in heaven. In his quasi-official 1966 book Mormon Doctrine, which remains in print, the late LDS Apostle Bruce R. McConkie wrote that `the holy practice will commence again after the Second Coming and the ushering in of the millennium.’ And by policy, men can be `sealed’ for eternity in LDS temple rites to more than one wife, though women are permitted only a single sealing. Three of the church’s current apostles, for example, were widowed and remarried. Each will have two wives in the eternities.”
(“Modern-day Mormons disavow polygamy”; http://www.sltrib.com/ci_8989865 )
Note carefully the last sentence, “Three of the church’s current apostles, for example, were widowed and remarried. Each will have two wives in the eternities.”
The three Mormon Apostles referred to in this article are Dallin H. Oaks, L. Tom Perry, and Russell M. Nelson. All three men are widowers, and all three men have been “sealed” to a second wife.
During a devotional address Mormon Apostle Dallin H. Oaks gave at Brigham Young University on January 29, 2002, he confirmed that he fully anticipates spending eternity with Kristen M. McCain, whom he was sealed to in the Salt Lake Temple on August 25, 2000. Oaks’ first wife, June Dixon Oaks, was sealed to him in marriage on June 24, 1952. She died in 1998. In his BYU talk, Oaks said, “When I was 66, my wife June died of cancer. Two years later I married Kristen McMain, the eternal companion who now stands at my side.”
(see http://speeches.byu.edu/?act=viewitem&id=229 )
What is the point of being “sealed” for eternity? Speaking in General Conference in 1994, Seventy Charles Didier stated:
“This [marriage] union is solemnized by the authority of the everlasting priesthood into a holy and sacred ordinance, the temple sealing. It is also called the new and everlasting covenant of marriage, and its purpose is to bind couples together on earth and bring them to a fulness of exaltation in the kingdom of God in the hereafter.”
(“Remember Your Covenants,” Ensign (Conference Edition), May 1994, p.42; http://www.josephsmith.net/ldsorg/v/index.jsp…).
In a January 28, 1999 City Weekly article titled “Only for Eternity,” author Andrea Moore Emmett quoted LDS Church spokesman Dale Bills who said, “We have to see sealing ordinances as a promise pending faithfulness and yes, some will live polygamy.”
Mormon women who find the teaching of celestial polygamy unsettling will probably not find comfort in a May 31, 2006 LDS Newsroom statement that reads:
“Question: Is polygamy gone forever from the Church?
We only know what the Lord has revealed through His prophets, that plural marriage has been stopped in the Church. Anything else is speculative and unwarranted.”
(see http://www.mormonnewsroom.org/…/polygamy-questions-and-answ… )
If it is really speculative and unwarranted, what is the point of Mormon widowers being sealed in Mormon temples? If temple sealings of this nature have significance in the hereafter, how can the LDS Church honestly say “plural marriage has been stopped”?’
(source http://www.mrm.org/celestial-polygamy )
2015 UPDATE: L. Tom Perry died on May 30, 2015 leaving Dallin H. Oaks and Russell M. Nelson as the only remaining living Mormon Celestial Polygamist Apostles.